Next, do research about your idea. For example, if you’re looking at being a Silver or a Platinum, research and learn all you can about the aspects of being that person and what it takes to get there. Study your business; study the market.
Look at the pitfalls. Look at the negative things. Look at everything. Because that’s how you make a firm decision of what you really want to do with your life. It doesn’t matter what it is, whether you’re buying a franchise for an auto parts store or you’re going to be a Royal Crown Diamond; it’s the same principle.
What empowers us to build a business? What enables us to be successful? Changing our paradigm, changing our belief system, changing how we see ourselves! Do I see myself being successful, or do I see myself going down to the welfare office and getting food stamps? I can change my outcome by changing how I see myself.
Some would say it’s fear that keeps us from doing this, and I say, no, it’s not fear. I’ve heard people say the greatest fear is public speaking. If that were true, I wouldn’t be up here on this stage. Public speaking is not the greatest fear. You know what the greatest fear is? It’s taking the risk to change your paradigm.
Capture an idea and dream about it. Now, this is where you can start taking control of your negative thoughts and emotions. This is where I would go when I would start feeling like giving up, because I had all these doctors telling me it was impossible. We had three doctors in Houston tell Mary and Mark, my pilot, and me that I should have been dead four different times. Well, what do they know about dying? That’s an individual thing.
You want to get out of that mindset. You capture an idea and dream about it. You dream about it until that’s all you see. Then talk about your idea with your family and friends. Maybe it’s about: I want to run a marathon, or I want to be a Gold.
Talk to your family and friends. Why do you talk to your family and friends first? Because you want to get any negativity past you. You want to get all of the “That’s crazy. I’ve never heard anything so foolish. That’s multilevel stuff; why would you want to do that?” You want to get that kind of talk out of the way! Then you can start focusing forward. Study your idea in your mind; rehearse it, look at it, and analyze it. Scrutinize it so you start putting a plan to that idea of how you’re going to do it.
Now, if you’re actively engaging your brain in doing this, you know what your brain is not doing? It’s not telling you to give up. It’s not telling you to feel sorry for yourself. It’s not telling you it’s impossible. It’s not telling you the doctor’s right. You’re focusing your brain on an idea that’s outside yourself that’s bigger than you.
There may be some days that you just don’t find a way to deal with “it”; and on those days, you just take it all in and say, “Okay, I’m not really at the top of my game today, but I’m going to get through this; and tomorrow will be a different day.”
There may be times when you don’t have the resources, mentally, physically, spiritually, to fight that day. So just sit back and give yourself permission to feel that way; it’s okay. Because if you don’t, you will fight harder and harder, and what you resist will persist.
I didn’t learn all of this overnight, and my family has been through a lot of uncomfortable moments because of my bad attitude when I would get down. I know what it’s like; I’ve been there several times, but this past year was the worst. So I started looking at ways I could fix it, things that I could do that would make things better, and how and what I could do to live with this until it’s better. Things don’t always change in the moment.
So, I’d like to share with you now my presentation on how to become successful in two weeks. Is anyone interested? Yes!
Today, June 16, 2017, is a very special day for me in so many ways, because on November 15, 2016, I was told that I would be lucky if I lived 6 months. So, when I made it past six months, I turned over to Mary that morning and said, “Honey, how does it feel to be in bed with a dead man?”
You don’t have to put up with or believe anything you’re told unless you want to!
In the past year, Mary’s been told four or five times that I wouldn’t live. And again, just this past April, she was told once again! So, I’m here and am feeling better than I’ve felt in several years!
It hasn’t been easy, but has it been worth it? Yes. Have I had days when I wanted to quit? Yes. Have I had days of depression? Yes. I’m a human being and those are things that we deal with on a day-to-day basis, and we fight them if we want the right outcome. We put them behind us and find ways to deal with them.
I appreciated so much Shawn Achor talking about happiness and how happiness can be found in many different forms, shapes, and places. Happiness can come out of pain. Happiness can come out of suffering. In suffering and pain, we can see happiness if we choose to.
I would like everyone who has a bottle of Fulfill Your Destiny to take it out of your pocket, put a couple of drops in the palm of your hand, rub it around, cup it over your nose, and breathe it in. And while you’re doing that, I want you to close your eyes and visualize where you want your destiny to take you and what you would like to see that look like. In health, in finances, in emotions, in spirituality, see what that looks like to you.
Then, for example, people are here tonight who have a financial struggle, see yourself living outside the struggle. See yourself living in grace and ease and happiness. If you’re needing better health, see yourself already healthy. See yourself doing the things that maybe you can’t do right now and feel what it feels like to be able to do what you may be limited in and can’t do at the moment.
Because what we put in here and how we articulate the information in that space between our ears determines the outcome of where we’re going tomorrow. And it may not happen—your vision, your desires may not happen tomorrow, next week, or next month. But if you believe in who you are, and you believe there’s a God in heaven, then you can change it.