Old Paradigms Can Destroy

Gary Young cutting fir trees with chainsaw
In this photo Gary is cutting fir trees–a familiar sight to those who participate in the YL winter harvest. Gary wonders if his logging accident in 1973 was a result of a faulty paradigm?

When I was a preteen, I listened to my father tell a friend, “You know, with my luck, if I were riding my horse down the trail and saw a large gold nugget lying on the trail, by the time I picked it up, put it in my saddlebag, and got it to the bank, it would have turned into a road apple.” (For city folks, a road apple is a cow pie.)

That was my father’s belief system that I grew up with, that nothing good could happen in my father’s life. Then he died as a result of an accident and cancer at the age of 60. I took care of him, paid his hospital bills, paid for his funeral, including his coffin, because he died penniless and left my mother with nothing. Then I took care of her until she died two years ago.

So I look at this and know it was difficult for my father because he watched me as I left home, went out on my own, started developing a business, and was becoming successful. It angered my father. He had a great deal of resentment about my success in life. Subconsciously, I would do things to destroy my success, because I didn’t want to lose my father’s approval. It took me a long time to realize what I was doing.

I believe my accident in 1973 was related to that very thing, because I was a very successful logger in Canada and had two incredible contracts at the very young age of 22 that any other logger would have been thrilled to have. I really have wondered if I created that accident because I didn’t want my father to be upset with me for being more successful than he was.

So we do things subconsciously because we’ve set up our paradigm and don’t realize it. We act it out or we live it out and then wonder why we can’t succeed in business or in other areas of our lives. No matter what I’ve done in my life, I’ve always been blessed to be successful, but I had to hold tight to that success because of my tendency to self-sabotage.

8 thoughts on “Old Paradigms Can Destroy

  1. I can certainly relate to that. At this age of 83 I now can see how many times and why I have also self-sabotaged. Now that I see this clearly I intend for my life to change.

    Thank you Gary for sharing those experiences with us.

    Barbara H. Champion

  2. This is something that I am dealing with. How do I stop the self-sabotage? What did you do to overcome? What oils would be good to use? I know I am doing things that are keeping me stuck and can’t seem to stop or recognize before I do so, only after. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

  3. Thank you for this Gary. It brings to mind a question I keep asking myself again and again (and to which I might add no-one yet has been able to answer) – how much can we change in our lives and how much can’t we? Yes, it brings to mind the old prayer of St Francis “Lord, give me the courage to change the things I can, the serenity to accept the things we cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference”.

    So many times I’ve been confronted by people trying everything they possibly can to affect some health condition and yet in the end all comes to naught. Even within my life, I’ve often been confronted with things I can’t seem to budge. Is it simply because I haven’t found the way or because I’m not meant to resolve it; just accept it? When is that point at which we have to accept what’s in front of us and not try to change it?

  4. Hi Gary ~ I would suggest that your accident was a blessing in disguise because without your experience, you may have never discovered essential oils and blessed our planet with them!

  5. I have come to really appreciate the hardships that life brings since I have come to trust, use,and love these oils! I know that I could not be who I am without them. I am so very grateful for all the work you have done to provide a holistic way of life for mankind!!!! I write a blog to share them with everyone I can! I invite all to come share in the joy of the knowledge my experiences with the oils has blessed me with. That blog link is httt://ruoiled.blogspot.com

  6. Thank you Gary for sharing these wonderful insights for us to use in changing our life’s journey. I love what my pastor says, “What you focus
    on you move toward”. Unfortunately our focus seems to take us back to our
    childhood. My mother raised 4 kids on a RN nursing salary & very little child support. We were all about 17 months apart & 4 teens in the house was very expensive. My mom tried the best she could to be positive about our
    finances, but sometimes I remember her saying we can’t afford it. I have just caught myself saying that to my children and I have since changed the wording. Now I say, right now we don’t have the extra money, so let’s save for it”. I am not new to Network Marketing and my husband’s view of it is that it’s just going to keep costing him money with no results. I don’t get much of his support, think he’s waiting for the “BIG CHECKS” to start rolling in so he can spend them. I don’t know, but my goal is to change the out come of this business adventure for the positive. This is another growing point in my life and I am starting today to start journaling my thoughts, successes, ruts, and ways to make positive changes. I love how you helped me to think about keeping a log so I can see how things are going and then making adjustments along the way. Thank you for your insightful words of Wisdom & for the Wonderful Oils. My promise to you is that I am going to be the Best Representer of Young Living Essential Oils that I can become. Thank you for giving us this opportunity! Ready for Serious Life Changes in Ohio.

  7. Thank you for this entry. It brought tears to my eyes, when I read about children wanting to be exactly like their parents and the unconscious thoughts of self-sabotage they carry in their thoughts.

  8. Thank you for the last few posts since Jan of this year. I had tears in my eyes when I read about how children follow in their parents footsteps unconsciously because they do not want to loose the love and approval of their parents. Self-sabotage is huge awareness that has been coming up for me recently. Thank you.

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